Disclaimer: I don't claim to have this all figured out so I hope you do your share of research into other resources and scripture. Also, bear with me as I'm still learning.If you haven't been to boundless then you are seriously missing out on a great Christian resource for young adults. Through my times of surfing through the site, I've noticed that there are quite a few great articles on dating/relationships and the term "purposeful singleness" comes up quite often. Initially, this term was pretty foreign to me but now I've come to understand that for those of us who are in the season of singleness (un-married), we need to be purposeful in preparing for marriage. Now it doesn't mean you need to start taking cooking classes or start looking at real estate, but it does mean that God's designed this very time for those of us to grow. Many of us can feel like we're in no man's land -- on the verge of finally "growing up." But our attitude should absolutely change if we don't want to miss out on the great things God wants to do in us now. If we don't take the time to grow and allow God to mold us, it can only spell trouble for the future. Maybe I'll go more into detail as I finish my research in one of my later posts.
For now, I do want to address that our time of singleness is vital to God's plan and will in our lives. Why? He wants to reform our minds and that takes time. Many of us who are single fall into the trap thinking that we need to find that someone now. Who do we have good chemistry with? Who do we connect with? How much do I have in common with him/her? Those are some great questions and valid questions to ask. Just flip on the tv and we can probably see a reality tv show like The Bachelor, Bachelorette, Flavor of Love, Tila Tequila just to name a few. Now sure as Christians we watch those shows but brush them off because we know we're better than that. We're not that shallow. That could be true but there's no doubt in my mind that our worldly generation's perception of love has tainted us and God's image of love just a little. And if we were to commit to a marriage relationship with that image tainted, imagine the consequence! We all know that divorce is as common between nonchristian couples and christian couples. Why is that? I mean, I'm sure all those couples had "chemistry" and "things in common" but why did they end the same way? We have to dig deeper and when we do, we will find that God wants to give us more than what the world tells us. To be continued...
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